We were getting really hungry, so we looked around the mall at the food options. There was a KFC (ha), a donut place, ice-cream, and a few others, but... it was intimidating to try and order when we don't speak Japanese and couldn't read the menus well. If it had been just me and The Hubs, we would have attempted it. But, with our kids already in a bad mood, if we went somewhere and ordered something they didn't like, it would have been a full-on meltdown in the middle of a Japanese place with all these Japanese people looking at us and thinking awful things about Americans. (I assume, of course.) So we resorted to walking back to base and eating at the Commissioned Officers' Club. I know, I'm disappointed in myself too. The girls were not excited to walk back. And by the time we reached the gate, The Hubs and I wanted to pull our hair out.
Thing 2 cried the entire way. Thing 1 complained about how bad her legs and back were hurting. And, she cried too. |
I need to be honest here for a second. Even with experience being out of the States before (both my husband and I have been to Europe), we are WAY out of our comfort zones in Japan. And having two little kids makes it worse. When your kids are having a meltdown in the middle of a store in the US, it's embarrassing. But when your kids are having a meltdown in the middle of a store in Japan, and you already stand out because you look different than everyone else around you, you don't know what people are saying, and you can't read anything... it's incredibly stressful. If it were just The Hubs and I trying to navigate around Japan, it would be a little difficult for sure. It's just proven to be even more difficult than I had imagined when you throw two little kids in the mix.
Part of me wants to deny housing in Ikego and try to get housing here at the main base. Everything I could need is here. I wouldn't have to leave base at all. But I don't want to be that person. I WANT to get out and enjoy Japan. I want to learn more about Japanese culture. So I think Ikego will be good for me. Not having a large commissary and exchange right beside my house will force me to get out and explore a bit. Apparently, it's just going to be a while before we start to feel more comfortable. And it's going to take longer than I thought it would.
We have made some friends though! And that is definitely helping us feel more at ease. Here are my girls with some of their new friends.
It is hard and stressful at first, Kim. But it does get better and easier really soon.
ReplyDeleteOn another note-- in general the Japanese (well, the Okinawans at least) are really kind and empathetic. They do discourage their children from being loud in public. But you are living in an area where the locals are accustomed to being around us loud Yankees. ;)
Obviously I have been thinking about you, because last night I had a dream about you. I dreamt that you and Tim were so far out of your comfort zone that you put in a request to be transferred - to Kansas. ???? Kansas, really dream?? And I was SO MAD, like...you quit???? You gave up????? YOu haven't even been there a month?? I was dream mad at you, lolol!! ISN'T THAT WEIRD? When I woke up, turned on my computer, and saw your blog post I was like DON'T GIVE UP. I know you must be ...really having a hard time right now. You are going through the biggest change of your life - Japan is such a different culture. But you are a strong person, and it is gonna turn out great!!! I am cheering you on! Don't quit. Don't get housing on base. You CAN do this, (you know that already). I bet by September, you will have your regular routine - your familiar stores, familiar faces...and soon you will grow to really love your new home. I really admire you - you are doing something so exciting. XOXOXOXO
ReplyDeleteI agree with katie. DON'T GIVE UP! You will look back in 20 years and be so proud of yourselves. One day at a time. Poor Ila and Lorel. Remind them about the little travelers and how they walked everywhere! Love you and wish I were there! Mom
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